One of the most meaningful aspects of my work in the practice is supporting expectant parents through the art of haptonomy. This profound method enables both parents to establish a close bond with their child even before birth, helping them prepare mindfully and gently for their newborn’s arrival. At the heart of haptonomy lies genuine contact and presence—qualities that, in my view, are far more valuable in a child’s first year of life than a “perfect” nursery or the latest baby gadgets.
Haptonomy was developed in the 1960s by Dutch scientist and therapist Frans Veldman as a way to foster intuitive and emotional contact between people. The term "haptonomy" means "the science of touch," describing the unique ability to create a connection and emotional closeness through intentional, mindful touch. In the context of birth preparation, haptonomy allows parents to build a nurturing, loving connection with their child during pregnancy, setting a strong foundation for the months to come.
In my sessions with couples, I emphasize that authentic, loving contact is the most essential gift we can offer in a child’s early life. Haptonomy provides an effective way for parents to begin this connection even before birth, allowing them to explore any blocks or hesitations that might hinder a true bond with their child. Recent research supports the idea that prenatal experiences significantly shape a child’s development; life doesn’t begin solely at birth but rather at conception. A mother’s emotions, experiences, and even stress levels can influence the developing child.
I am especially grateful to my teacher, Ursula Mellert from Silberschnur, whose wisdom and experience in haptonomy have deeply inspired me. Thanks to her guidance, I have been able to bring this work into my practice with care and depth.
From my experience and work with clients, I know that this preparation can have a uniquely positive impact on the birth experience. Haptonomy provides fathers or partners with an important role, offering a way to bring grounding presence and active support during the pregnancy journey. Through touch and mindful exercises, parents “introduce” themselves to the child, creating a bond that the baby will recognize at birth. Over time, this connection helps both parents feel prepared and engaged, moving beyond the traditionally passive role that many fathers feel during pregnancy.
Every couple’s journey in haptonomy is different, and sessions are tailored to their specific needs. Typically, I work with couples once a month throughout the pregnancy, focusing on gentle, supportive techniques for a natural and empowered birth experience. In cases where a cesarean birth is planned, haptonomy can also be invaluable, helping the child experience a comforting sense of familiarity during the procedure.
A recent example in my practice illustrates the effectiveness of this method: After a few haptonomy sessions, one couple’s baby moved into the optimal birth position. While every pregnancy is unique and outcomes vary, stories like these demonstrate the physical and emotional readiness that haptonomy can foster.
It is a profound joy to share this journey with expectant parents and guide them through these first steps of connection and bonding. If you are interested in experiencing haptonomy for yourself or would like to book a session, you can easily do so through Doctolib.
Entering parenthood is a sacred tra
nsition, and haptonomy offers a deeply fulfilling way to begin this journey. I am grateful to be able to offer this practice and honored to support parents during this special time.
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